“Ejaculation Control” vs Maithuna

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I am a 56 years male doing tantric sex Practice for the last 15 years. I don’t ejaculate during sexual intercouse.I can withhold my ejaculation for more than 30 minutes. I can withdraw from the sexual intercourse before ejaculation.I seek tantic sex friend who will be interested in practicing tantric sex.


Hello L.R. —

I hate to say it, but tantrically speaking, you’re missing the point!

From the standpoint of giving your lover a chance to enjoy her/his self, it’s good that you can last longer than the average of 9.5 minutes without ejaculating, so congratulations on that. The problem is, Tantric lovemaking is *not* about “withholding ejaculation!”

You could make love for 4 hours by keeping yourself from ejaculating by closing your eyes and repeating, “Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day!” like Austin Powers, but that would just make you less aware of your partner, yourself, and your sexual and loving experience.

Don’t look for someone with whom you can perform sex with ejaculation control – look for someone with whom you can explore the very nature of reality and sexuality through full awareness in lovemaking! Real ejaculation “mastery” arrives out of full relaxation of the breath and
internal smooth muscle tissue during conscious lovemaking. In short, it’s not about control at all, but about letting go of internal tension…

Tao Semko

  • December 6, 2012